My Heart to Yours

2/5/2007

A First Time For Everything…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 11: 18 pm.

I actually watched THE WHOLE Super Bowl last night! It might be the first time ever. I mean, I have watched bits and pieces before but not a whole game. Of couse, we were cheering for the Colts. I must say though I was most impressed by both of the teams coaches. Class and Character! I appreciated so much that Tony Dungey spoke about his faith and his Jesus when he accepted the Lombardi trophy. Today I found this website and was even that much more impressed.

As far as commercials go…. I hereby vow to NEVER, EVER buy another Snickers bar for the rest of my life. There was another commercial I especially hated but I can’t remember who it was for. It was the mechanical robot that jumped off the bridge to commit suicide. (I think it was a car commercial). That was not even funny. Does anyone remember what it was? As far as I am concerned, suicide is not a joking matter!

2/9/2007

Creative Ways to get Cozy…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 3: 41 pm.

You and your mate can feel extra-connected this winter with one of these heat-generating snuggle moves.

The Sofa Snuggle: Put a spin on spooning. Have your mate lie behind you. Bring your knees to your chest, curling your whole body up tight, and let his arms and legs cover you like a blanket.

The Hit-and-Run Snuggle: Sneak up behind your mate while she’s washing dishes or raiding the fridge and give her a bear hug. Take a deep breath in unison and exhale.

The Soul Snuggle: Sit on your spouse’s lap, facing him. Hold hands, rub noses, gaze into each other’s eyes, and feel the love flow between you.

—Redbook (January 2005)

To One of my Readers…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 11: 47 pm.

and you know who you are….

Thanks for quoting me in your recent blog post. Just wanted you to know that you are “one sick dude” and there is no way I would EVER let my kids receive advice or teaching or anything from you. You seem to think you are the “know all” regarding todays children and teens. What I see from you most is disgusting, narcissistic behavior.

You need therapy! Care to make an appointment? I can give you an excellent referral!

Have a nice day!

2/10/2007

The Enemy…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 10: 18 pm.

“Satan’s ultimate lie is that you are capable of being the god of your own life,
and his ultimate bondage is getting you to live as though his lie is truth.”

~ Neil Anderson ~

2/11/2007

Please Educate Yourself…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 11: 26 am.

Before you teach your kids something and defintely before you influence others with your “opinions” be sure you do the hard work of research and educating yourself on the subject. I will even make it easy for you…

Born Gay?
From Focus On the Family
Countless studies have been performed aiming to prove that homosexuality is caused by genetics. Gay proponents love this argument because it says, “Hey, we can’t help our sexual orientation. We are born this way!” Essentially, they can claim that they are helpless, get your sympathy and try to further the justification of homosexual practices because they believe the drive is hereditary.

Who’s to blame them? On the surface, the “science” appears convincing. In recent years, several studies have grabbed headlines around the world, “proving” homosexuality is inborn. The evidence looks solid. The researchers seem credible.

Claims of genetic causation
According to Joe Dallas, author and former homosexual, “People tend to view homosexuality more favorably when they think it is inborn. No wonder gay leaders (not all, but most) push the born gay theory; it furthers the cause.” 1

Dr. Jeffrey Satinover, a medical doctor and former fellow in child psychiatry at Yale University, has taken a thorough look at three particular studies that backfired on themselves. Upon closer evaluation, this is what he discovered:

Flawed Study #1: Brain Structure
In the August 1991 issue of Science, Simon LeVay of the Salk Institute in San Diego published a study on differences in brain structure between homosexual and heterosexual men. 2

The study, however, had at least three glaring weaknesses:

It was based on a small group of 41 male cadavers, including 19 homosexual males. All of the homosexual men had died of AIDS, something that many researchers believe could very well account for or contribute to the differences (in the brain stem).
There is no way to determine if the smaller hypothalamuses were the cause or the result of homosexual behavior. 3
The area of the brain LeVay was measuring (the INAH3) was quite small — smaller than snowflakes, according to scientists interviewed. His peers in the neuroscientific community couldn’t agree on whether the INAH3 should be measured by its size and volume, or by its number of neurons. 4
Flawed Study #2: Twins
In another study, psychologist Michael Bailey of Northwestern University and psychiatrist Richard Pillard of the Boston University School of Medicine showed that homosexuality occurred more frequently among identical twins than fraternal twins. 5But their 1991 study had a major flaw: All of their twins grew up together.

These researchers failed to compare their findings with a control group of twins raised apart. If they had, they would have discovered other influencing factors, such as how family dynamics and their relationship with parents affected who they were. Not to mention only about half the identical twins studied were both homosexuals. So, if the study showed that homosexuality in twins was purely genetic, then both of the twins would have been homosexual 100 percent of the time.

Flawed Study #3: The X-Chromosome
Lastly, five researchers led by Dean Hamer at the National Cancer Institute released a study in July of 1993 that attempted to link homosexuality in men with a specific genetic region of the X-chromosome. 6 “This is by far the strongest evidence to date that there is an important genetic component to sexual orientation,” Hamer reported. 7

Not so, said other highly qualified professionals. “There are several problems with the Hamer study. First, a Canadian research team has been unable to duplicate the finding using a comparable experimental design. 8 Second, Hamer confined his search to the X-chromosome on the basis of family interviews, which seems to reveal a disproportionately high number of male homosexuals on the mothers’ sides of the family. 9

Additionally, one of Hamer’s co-authors has expressed serious concerns about the methodology of the study. 10 Finally, there is some question about whether Hamer’s results, correctly interpreted, are statistically significant. His conclusions rest on the assumption that the rate of homosexuality in the population at large is 2 percent. If the base rate is actually higher, then Hamer’s results are not statistically significant. 11An interesting side note is that the 2 percent incidence figure is more accurate than the oft-noted 1-in-10 percentage. The lower figure is brought in when needed to bolster this slight effect, but generally overlooked by the media elsewhere.

These are only three examples of popular studies that were later found to be unreliable due to failure to meet basic criteria for establishing scientific facts, lack of clarity on behalf of the researcher, faulty method of study, or ignorance of basic scientific premises. Other studies hold no weight because the conclusions have been insinuated rather than proven. It’s these flawed studies, however, that receive the most publicity.

Most recently, Dr. Robert Spitzer, one of the men who helped eliminate the American Psychiatric Association’s listing of homosexuality as a mental disorder in 1973, acknowledged that some homosexuals can become heterosexual. In an interview with the CitizenLink online newsletter, Spitzer said, “The critics of this kind of therapy (to change homosexuality) don’t just argue that it is rarely effective; they argue that it’s never effective.” 12(Emphasis added.)

Only one kind of person
No solid scientific evidence exists today that people are born homosexual. 13

Interestingly enough, genetic predeterminants have also been theorized for alcoholism or depression. Neither alcoholism nor depression is embraced as healthy. Rather, we try to help people who suffer from these tendencies to find relief and recovery. 14

The same holds true for homosexuality. From conception, males differ from females. Every cell in the male body is different from every cell in the female’s. There are vast disparities between males and females that are currently overlooked by the popular media. But, by design, male was meant for female, and vice versa.

Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, president of the National Association for Research and Treatment of Homosexuality, states, “We are all heterosexual. Some heterosexuals have a homosexual problem, but it does not mean there are two different kinds of people.” 15As such, the hope for finding freedom from its trap is all the more real.

In the words of Stanton Jones, Chair of Psychology at Wheaton College, “Anyone who says there is no hope (for change) is either ignorant or a liar. Every secular study of change has shown some success rate, and persons who testify to substantial healings by God are legion.” 16

1 Joe Dallas, Is Homosexuality Inborn? What Current Science Really Says (Seattle, WA: Exodus International-North America, 1998), 2.
2 Simon LeVay, “A Difference in Hypothalamic Structure Between Heterosexual and Homosexual Men,” Science, vol. 253 (1991): 1034-1037.
3 Simon LeVay on the “Phil Donahue Show” titled “Genetically Gay: Born Gay or Become Gay?” January 3, 1992.
4 David Gelman, “Is This Child Gay? Born or Bred: The Origins of Homosexuality,” Newsweek, September 9, 1991, 52.
5 Michael J. Bailey and Richard C. Pillard, “A Genetic Study of Male Sexual Orientation,” Archives of General Psychiatry, vol. 48 (December 1991): 1089-1096.
6 Dean H. Hamer, et al., “A Linkage Between DNA Markers on the X Chromosome and Male Sexual Orientation,” Science, vol. 261 (1993): 321-327.
7 Paul Recer, “Researchers Find Genetic Link to Homosexuality,” The Associated Press, July 15, 1993.
8 G. Rice, C. Anderson, N. Risch and G. Ebers, “Male Homosexuality: Absence of Linkage to Microsatellite Markers on the X Chromosome in a Canadian Study,” presented at the 21st annual meeting of the International Academy of Sex Research, 1995, Provincetown, MA. This presentation is discussed in E. Marshall’s “NIH ‘Gay Gene’ Study Questioned,” Science, vol. 268 (1995): 1841.
9 Evan Balaban, quoted in V. D’Alessio, “Born to Be Gay?” New Scientist, September 28, 1996, 32-35
10 E. Marshall, “NIH ‘Gay Gene’ Study Questioned,” Science, vol. 268 (1995): 1841.
11 Neil Risch, Elizabeth Squires-Wheeler and Bronya Keats, “Male Sexuality Orientation and Genetic Evidence,” Science, vol. 262 (1993): 2063-2065.
12 Pete Winn, “A Crack in the Wall? A Respected Psychiatrist Rethinks Homosexuality,” CitizenLink, February 4, 2000, www.family.org/cforum/hotissues/a0009548.html.
13 Frank Worthen, “What is Homosexuality?” (San Rafael, CA: Love in Action, 1993), 1.
14 Bob Davies and Lori Rentzel, Coming Out of Homosexuality (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 1993), 44.
15 Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D., “The Condition of Male Homosexuality,” speech presented at the Love Won Out conference, Dallas, TX, May 6, 2000.
16 Dallas, 11.
Excerpted from the booklet The Truth Comes Out: The Roots and Causes of Homosexuality, published by Focus on the Family. Copyright © 2001 Focus on the Family.

2/12/2007

Better Yet…..

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 12: 01 am.

It doesn’t really matter what I think. What matters are the inspired words written on that subject in both the Old and New Testaments. Let me quote a few of them, and then you can draw your own conclusions:

LEVITICUS 18:22Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.

LEVITICUS 20:13
If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable.

JUDGES 19:22-23
While they were enjoying themselves, some of the wicked men of the city surrounded the house. Pounding on the door, they shouted to the old man who owned the house, “Bring out the man who came to your house so we [Benjamites living in Gibeah] can have sex with him.” The owner of the house went outside and said to them, “No, my friends, don’t be so vile.”

1 KINGS 14:24There were even male shrine prostitutes in the land [Rehoboam was king at the time]; the people engaged in all the detestable practices of the nations the Lord had driven out before the Israelites.

1 KINGS 15:12He [King Asa] expelled the male shrine prostitutes from the land [Judah] and got rid of all the idols his fathers had made.

1 KINGS 22:46
He [King Jehosophat] rid the land [Judah] of the rest of the male shrine prostitutes who remained there even after the reign of his father Asa.

2 KINGS 23:7
He [King Josiah] also tore down the quarters of the male shrine prostitutes, which were in the temple of the Lord and where women did weaving for Asherah.

1 CORINTHIANS 6:9-10Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

1 TIMOTHY 1:9-11We also know that law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious; for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, for adulterers and perverts, for slave traders and liars and perjurers — and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine that conforms to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, which he entrusted to me.

JUDE 1:7In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire.

Obviously, these Scriptures leave little room for debate, especially when considered in the light of Romans 1, quoted earlier. The only way their message can be negated is to reject the authority of God’s Word.

Please note, however, that many similar texts condemn heterosexual promiscuity with equal fervor as homosexual behavior. Immorality is immoral whether it occurs between people of the same sex or those of the opposite sex. In both cases, our responsibility is to call sin by its name and to admonish men and women to live in purity and holiness.

2/14/2007

Reader’s Digest Survey on Marriage…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 10: 11 pm.

Readers’ Digest announced the results of their annual survey on
marriage and came
up with some interesting results. Here are the key findings:

• 71% of married spouses said they would marry their spouse
AGAIN

• 62% of all married spouses said they loved their partners MORE
NOW than when they married them.

• The five most important factors for a good marriage were
trust, having fun talking and laughing, compatibility, quality of
sex and
frequency of sex.

• 47% of all men said their wives were funnier than they had expected
when
they got married.

• When asked what they most missed from being single, some of the
frequent
responses were “living by own rules”, “being more adventurous
sexually”.
Forty percent said they missed nothing about being single.

2/19/2007

The Art of Listening…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 11: 55 pm.

• Lean forward and look into her eyes
• Inquire by saying, “Tell me more”
• Stop interrupting with your “answers”
• Tell her what you heard her say and ask if you are right
• Express comfort: “I am sorry for how you have suffered”
• Never look at your watch while she is talking