• They take each other for granted.
• They want to avoid a confrontation.
• They are obsessed with their own interests.
• They feel that they are being manipulated.
• They are too hurried to take the time.
• They don’t want to hurt the other person.
Can you think of any others?
• Forgiveness acknowledges the hurt
• Forgiveness releases the offense and the offender
• Forgiveness relinquishes resentment
• Forgiveness is an act of grace
Parents’ fighting has long term impact on kids, studies show
FRIDAY, Feb. 10 (HealthDay News) - Two news studies suggest that even moderate amounts of parental conflict can wreak havoc on the lives of children, disrupting their sleep and causing negative feelings in their day-to-day lives.
Kids even feel distressed when the parents give each other the “silent treatment” in hope their children won’t notice they’re angry, said Patrick T. Davies, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester and lead research of one of the studies.
“These kids are still able to pick up on the fact that their parents are unhappy with each other,” Davies said, “and it comes through when you ask them questions about what they feel: they report feeling more fearful, more angry, more sad.”
In recent years, researchers have been studying how parental interaction affects children, with an eye toward finding the tipping point where problems in marriage begin to disrupt the emotional lives of children.
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If you have not seen this yet, you absolutely must check it out. Be sure you watch the CBS video of the story.
I am such a sucker for the underdog and this definitely made me cry.
The No. 1 factor in women’s marital happiness is the “emotional engagement” of their husbands, University of Virginia researchers say.
Husbands’ commitment to and support of the union is more important than money and the division of household chores, concludes the study drawn from the 5,000-couple National Survey of Families and Households.
“Conventional and academic wisdom now suggests that the ‘best’ marriages are unions of equals,” researcher Steven Nock said. “Our work suggests that the reality is more complicated.”
“Regardless of what married women say they believe about gender, they tend to have happier marriages when their husband is a good provider — provided that he is also emotionally engaged,” researcher W. Bradford Wilcox said. “I was very surprised to find that even egalitarian-minded women are happier when their marriages are organized along more gendered lines.”
The study published in the journal Social Forces found the most happily married women do not work outside the home and have husbands who earn the majority of the family’s income.
http://www.news-medical.netWomen’s Health News
We have been listening to lots of Bob Marley around our house as of lately.
I can almost smell the jerk chicken cooking on the grill and hear the soothing soound of the waves.
AAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
10 Things Every Couple Should Know
• The qualities within your spouse that ignited your interest
when you first met.
• How to give your spouse a visible expression of love.
• The importance of looking into your spouse’s eyes
when listening.
• One compliment a day isn’t too many.
• Good memories are priceless no matter what they cost.
• The importance of courtship after marriage.
• How to make your spouse laugh.
• The simple intimacy of holding hands.
• A romantic location within walking distance from your home.
• Unexpected gifts can bring great pleasure.
I wanna hold your hand…
(BTW, I love this song….)
As a New York Times reporter found, holding your loved one’s hand can calm jittery neurons.
Married women under extreme stress who reach out and hold their husbands’ hands feel immediate relief, neuroscientists have found in what they say is the first study of how human touch affects the neural response to threatening situations. The soothing effect of the touch could be seen in scans of areas deep in the brian that are involved in registering emotional and physical alarm.
The women received significantly more relief from their husbands’ touch than from a stranger’s, and those in particularly close marriages were most deeply comforted by their husbands’ hands, the study found.
The findings help explain one of the longest-standing puzzles in social science: why married men and women are healthier on average than their peers. Husbands and wives who are close tend to limit each other’s excesses like drinking and smoking but not enough to account for their better health compared with singles, researchers say.
To read more go to www.nytimes.com (search for Jan. 31 issue)
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