My Heart to Yours

9/2/2005

For All you Daddies of Daughters out there…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 1: 29 pm.

What Daughters Need from Dads
Ken R. Canfield, Ph.D.
The National Center for Fathering

Relating to daughters doesn’t always come naturally for dads, but we can learn to connect in affirming ways. We testosterone-filled males can relate well to girls, and it doesn’t require a huge adjustment in our approach. We have so much potential power to influence their self-esteem, their independence, and their body image. Many experts are even finding that our masculine approach in relating is beneficial for daughters, not a hindrance.

Here are five key things that daughters need from their dads, based on research among several thousand dads:

9/4/2005

Camp Gruber….

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 5: 12 pm.

As many of you know thousands of refugees from Hurricane Katrina are either already here in Oklahoma or are on the ir way. The Red Cross is in desperate need for doctors, nurses and mental health professionals. Soooo…. I am headed out for Camp Gruber tomorrow morning for a twelve hour shift. How can I sit here in my nice comfortable home and say, “Nah…. I think I will stay home on this “day off” and enjoy my family”? I can’t! God has given me a gift of counseling that I MUST use! I hope to be able to volunteer once a week or so! We’ll see…

I would appreciate your prayers for wisdom, boldness, and compassion.

I will keep you posted!

9/6/2005

Hurricane Katrina

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 10: 16 am.

Well, my 12 hour shift at Camp Gruber was more like a 16 hour shift but that is ok. The stories I heard were amazing and horrifying. It seems that most people wanted and needed to talk most about their experience at the Super Dome in New Orleans. One woman told me of seeing a man commit suicide by jumping off the third level of the Super Dome to his death. A man told me about seeing a young man rape a seven or eight year old girl and then be killed by some people who found out what he had done. One woman talked about the filth and stentch of the sanitation or lack of I should say. She said that the bathrooms were running over and out of the restroom doors. She said the smell was horrible. When they finally were told that buses were there to evacuate them, some had to wait outside in the heat for 7-10 hours. This woman told me people were dropping like flies.

I met a 75 year old man who was deaf and alone. He had been hit by a car on his way to the SuperDome and had a broken hip. The most saddening for me was a seven year old boy, who was seperated from his mother when the buses arrived in Houston. He was there with a very distant relative, I think he said a cousin who was young too, anyway, the boy was trying to see the doctor because of a tummy ache. All he could say was, “I want my mommy”. It was very sad.

The spirit at Camp Gruber was very positive. The people were very thankful for all of the hospitality that Oklahomans had shown. Many were trying to find lost relatives, many were trying to find someone to come get them, and many didn’t have a clue what they were going to do next. Some said they didn’t think they would go back to LA but several wanted and needed to go back to actually see for themselves the disaster, probably for closure reasons and in hopes of salvaging anything. (Keep in mind these people have not seen the tv in a week and most haven’t seen the damage like we all have in our living rooms).

It was a good experience. A lot of the time I was there yesterday I just walked around the Camp and asked people if they were doing ok. Most of them opened up and wanted to tell their story. Some talked a lot. The rest of the time I stayed around the phone center. That seemed to be a hot spot for mental health. People were finally getting in touch with relatives, some with bad news of family members who had died, some with news of no money to come and get them, and some were not so lucky and were angry and frustrated for not being able to get through. I sat near a lady at the phone who had finally gotten a hold of her son who had been desperately trying to find her. All she could do was cry! She was so thankful.

I know that the media has said that they really don’t need any more donations at the Red Cross and I know there was a ton of stuff that was continually dropped off yesterday but I had several people ask for some specific things. Most of them don’t have watches and there are very few clocks out there at Camp Gruber. They have no sense of time and would love to have a watch. Other things I noticed that they needed wre laundry detergent and suitcases or duffel bags. They came with nothing and now have been able to pick up some extra clothes and some necessities but have nothing to put their stuff in. If you could let your church know this then Camp Gruber would allow church vans to come in and drop these things off. I think they could also benefit from some programs for all the children there. This may have to go through the Red Cross but there is not much for the kids to do. This may be a great time to do a traveling VBS.

Well, I am sure I have left off a lot but please continue to pray for these people. The Red Cross can still use volunteers, even just to work in the kitchen and serve food and of course, they can still use your financial support.

9/8/2005

Individuals or Churches Needed…

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 10: 20 pm.

AFA is seeking to find churches that would be willing to adopt a hurricane victim family for the next three to six months. If your church would be willing to adopt a family, please fill out the form and email it back to us. We in turn will contact a family needing shelter and have them get in contact with you directly. You can interview them to see if their needs and your facilities are compatible and to secure references such as their previous local church and pastor. We suggest that you screen the family carefully. While 99% of these people will be very appreciative, there is always that 1% who can create problems.

It is not necessary that these families be put into individual homes (although the local church may do that if desired). Churches with family life centers which have shower and food preparation facilities can be used in this effort.

These people need a place to stay for the next three to six months until they can get back on their feet. AFA’s role is simply to put the local church and needy family into contact with each other. After that is accomplished, AFA steps out of the picture.

If your church can adopt a family, please click here to register.

My Prayer for those at Camp Gruber and All Over The World

Category: General. Posted by Laura Kuester at 10: 30 pm.

O gracious God, we will never understand the sorrows of the world, but by your grace we will not turn away from them. Renew and sustain in us the spirit of love that crosses miles. Cheer and encourage those who labor to help the injured, the homeless, the hungry and those in despair. Bless and soften the hearts of those who would take advantage of tragedy for their own profit, that they may come to know where true joy is to be found. Unite us in prayer with all those who look for help, and use us to come speedily to them with the things that they need. We ask these things in your own most holy Name. Amen.

9/11/2005

Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage…

Category: Marriage. Posted by Laura Kuester at 3: 59 pm.

1. Ways to Welcome God Into Your Marriage

Develop Your Taste for Spiritual Disciplines

• Begin using a one-year Bible
• Maintain a journal
• Obtain a hymnal and a Christian songbook
• Pick up a devotional book - or two or three
• Tell each other about specific incidents when you’ve sensed God’s
involvement
• Pick a time of the day to pray for each other

2. Prayer Distractions…

• Television
• Tiredness
• Busyness
• Laziness (Procrastination)
• Computer (Internet)
• Conflict

7 Commitments for a Strong Marriage…

Category: Marriage. Posted by Laura Kuester at 4: 02 pm.

We Commit to …

• Oneness in body, spirit and soul
• Positive communication
• Quality time together
• Growth and improvement in our relationship
• Emotional and sexual faithfulness
• Honesty
• A lifelong love

10 things Every Couple Should Know…

Category: Marriage. Posted by Laura Kuester at 4: 06 pm.

• Marriages are built on small expressions of affection.
• How to appreciate and accept the differences in your partner.
• How to say “I’m sorry”.
• How to agree more and argue less.
• Being the right person is more important than trying to change
• your spouse into the right person.
• How to make every anniversary a special celebration.
• A growing marriage gets stronger and better over the years.
• Guidelines for a great marriage won’t work unless you apply them.
• The triggers that hurt feelings.
• The value of a hug.
• Your spouse is priceless.

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